Road rage can be fatal and is one of the largest causes of road incidents globally. A lot of us have fallen into the habit of watching out for bad drivers. Then when we finally see a mistake, we get angry and curse at them a beep our horn for their mistake.
Little do we know that the effects of our angry responses are much worse than accepting the mistake and moving on. For example, sounding our horn in the incident of someone making a mistake has a ripple effect and can often lead to an accident and even cars being written off. If there is no immediate danger, you do not need to sound your horn as it distracts other drivers and can cause an accident.
Here is what you can do to reduce and gradually overcome your road rage:
- It’s not them, it’s you
You need to focus inward and realise that you are viewing others mistakes through a filter in which everything is revolving around you. Whilst this doesn’t make you a bad person, we all do it, it can be changed. Instead of viewing others action as a direct action that relates to you, view it from an outside perspective and be aware of the filter you have against them.
- Everyone views it differently
Instinctively, we believe that the other person (and everyone else) should or does view the world the same way we do. Unfortunately this is incredibly incorrect. Expecting people to respond to things the way you would / want them to is the reason for road rage. If we lower our expectations and just be grateful that both parties are safe, everyone is happier.
- Stop hating on the things you can’t change
Ranting at other drivers is a way to feel better about ourselves and ‘teach them a lesson or two’ but responding to their behaviour is in no way teaching them anything about driving. Remember this truth before getting in a rage and doing something you’ll regret later.
Before you get angry or confront anyone take a step back and try see it from an outside perspective. Does this person seem scares, angry or another emotion and how are you going to react to this situation. Do you really need to be right? Or can you let it slide?
- Confront thoughtfully
If it’s a necessity that you talk it through, think about the outcome you’d like from the conversation before you begin. This way you can get your message across instead of conveying your underlying emotions.